Can your Marriage survive an "OUT"? (Expert Advice From "For Healthy Marriages")
While at our 16 year daughter’s softball game I started to think about the
rules of engagement and what happened to the girls when the umpire called
them out. In a loud voice the umpire would say “out”, “strike” or “safe”.
When he uttered the word “safe” the girls would cheer with excitement. When
he uttered the word “strike” you would see the girls buckle down and get
focused but when the umpire would say, in most cases with force, the word
‘out’, you would see the girls countenance change. The girls wanted to win
and being called out would only hamper their cause.
With that frame of mind, I came to ponder the following two questions: When
does an out really matter, and, Can your marriage survive an out?
By definition the word out means: to the end or conclusion; to a final
decision or resolution: So to me the only time an out really matters in
softball, is when the team you are rooting for is behind in the ninth inning
and it is their last at bat. Prior to that last at bat anything is possible.
Call me down, call me out, call my marriage down & out; but please
understand that when I am at my last at bat, I will be swinging for the
fences and if the bases are loaded everybody will be coming home. You should
go in to your marriage with the train of thought that if needed this game
will go into extra innings. Do not go into the marriage looking to get out.
Divorce should not be the first answer to every issue within the marriage.
Before deciding to call the game; ask yourself some questions.
Start by asking the ones below.
In my relationship or marriage what constitutes an out? Does lying
constitute an out? Does infidelity constitute an out? Does lack of money
constitute an out? What would cause you to declare an out in your
relationship? How many outs would you take or would one out take you out of
the marriage? I believe that a marriage has innings and just like in
softball sometimes you may be a head and sometimes you maybe down but
remember, if you and your teammate put in the needed work there will always
be another at bat for you. Before the team can take the field the
fundamentals must be learned, practice time put in and sacrifices made.
Winning isn’t winning if the team does not come out whole. Your marriage can
survive an ‘out’ if you remember that you will get another chance at bat.
May God bless you…
Thank you for Reading…
~ Marcus n Gloria Whyte
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