I am content and happy in my singleness and after all these years I am not willingly to settle for foolishness or warning signs I can see a mile coming. However, I do desire marriage in my future (things are looking good) and believe there are good men out there who have integrity, can spell the word monogamy, and are men of character.
Earlier today, I was thinking about different topics to write about for my blog and I recalled something a man said to me a while ago that left a great impact on me. Let me share it with you now. I was at a place of business, getting some business done in a business atmosphere wearing business attire. (You get the hint) A man looking to be in his 50’s walks, no slides, up to me with his torn jeans half down his body and says loudly, “Hey baby, you look as good as a bucket o’ hot wings. I could just eat you up!” I believe a moment of pause is needed here…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….
Now, I am only one woman. I have different interests, desires, ideas and views than other women I’m sure you’ve met. However, there are some general helpful tips I believe I can offer some men out there who just need a few tips from that strange, unreasonable, “you are supposed to know how to read our mind”, gender. Keep in mind; these are MY personal tips for you. The tips expressed here do not represent the tips and views of all women living or dead. Finally, these suggestions assume you are approaching an intelligent woman who CANNOT tell you every guests that has been on the shows where people get into fights over paternity tests and who slept with whose brother..Sorry had to go there.
Tip #1 – When approaching a woman don’t ever, ever, ever say, “Hey baby, you look as good as a bucket o’ hot wings. I could just eat you up!”
Tip #2 – Despite the strength of any women, generally speaking, we want men who are protectors and warriors without being out of control and mean, courageous yet willing to admit when their wrong or afraid, humorous without being offensive and objectify us, loving, engaged and want to invest in who we are (not just when you want some poonanny) and MOST importantly (at least to me) willingly to take the lead regardless of rejection, mistakes or being wrong.
Tip #3 – If you have been married 5 times, are currently separated, and you just left your girlfriend you might want to take a break before approaching an intelligent woman. A discerning woman will immediately spot a “Man who can’t be alone and is desperate”. She knows that she will always be one of many. Take a break and maybe find out why it’s difficult to be without a woman for a period of time.
Tip #4 –Understanding that rejection is a huge thing for you guys, this tip will be difficult. If you make a mistake, disappointment and anger might grow on a woman’s part then fade. However, when you back away out of fear, allow her to take the lead, become passive in the relationship, resentment WILL certainly grow and will grow stronger guaranteed. As strong and independent as I am, when I get married, I don’t want him to look to me to be the leader of the relationship. Partner yes, but be the leader of the relationship no.
Tip #5– Unfortunately, some women expect you to “just know” instead of telling you their feelings and what is going on in their head. Yes, we are emotional human beings who can go from being an angel to the wicked witch of the west in a second depending on the timing. And yes, we have and desire to exchange more words than the dictionary can hold in one sitting. When it comes down to it, we are kinda simple to figure out. Generally speaking, we desire men who will cherish, protect and love us well with integrity, honesty and character in all your humanity, realness and shortcomings.
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it. You can do this guys.
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