ANSWERS, STRUGGLES AND QUESTIONS: Do You Find Yourself Angry and Frustrated All The Time?
Daily, I work, counsel, and spend time with people who are dealing with the struggles of life. They are dealing with the struggle of being judged because of having to be vulnerable and needing help, being angry with God due to their lives not looking the way they planned, and having personal losses and struggles that represent a fight for control in their lives. The difference between the audience I serve daily and many of us is the fact that we are not in a state of homelessness.  Remember, we still deal and struggle with the same issues rather we want people to know about them or not. Somehow, we believe we need to wear a mask so people won’t find out our secret. Question. Do you find yourself angry and frustrated all the time?
Often when we feel anger and frustration it is not because we are simply angry or frustrated. Those are symptoms for something deeper. Underneath anger lies pain and hurt. Let me explain. Let’s say someone we care about (a parent, mate, friend, etc.) promises us they will come through on something that is important to us tomorrow. Tomorrow comes and that person fails to come through again on their promise. Naturally, we feel anger and frustration as well as disappointment because the important thing did not happen. Even more, we feel those things because underneath we are hurt that the person we cared about and believed cared about us failed us. Somehow, it feels as though we were not valued by the person and it hurts and our response is anger in feeling unimportant and disappointed. Â
That said, in life, there are many things around us that cause pain at the root and create a shadow of anger and frustration in our lives. That is a reality. However, we have a choice. Everything is a choice. We can choose to allow our pain to rule our lives, cause us to view the world through a half glass empty filter and shut us down in negativity or we can choose to not allow our pain to rule our lives and use it to empower our future. Pain is not our enemy but a wonderful tool for growth.
Yes, we will feel hurt, pain, disappointment, anger, frustration, etc. The key will be to not allow those feelings to rule our lives. Feelings are simply indicators that something is going on, they are not fact. I can FEEL somebody hates me or that something is going on at work. However, until I go to the source (the person, find out the truth not gossip, etc.) it is not reality. Â
The greatest lies Satan put out is that pain and weakness are to be feared and avoided. Satan knows that the Lord uses both to mold greatness in His people in order to reveal His purpose in them.Â
(Jer. 29:11)
“For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.”And He does….I promise!
Hang in there,
Charlotte
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