VISION/PURPOSE: “Facing Your Fears: A Plan For Growth- Part Eight: Steps to Build Your Self-Esteem
I apologize for the delay in getting this last series post to you. Unfortunately, I had a short time in hospital and was unable to get back with you for a while. However, I am doing fine now and wanted to get the final post in our series to you.
Today we are going to close out with an issue that often stands in our way of growth, taking risk, moving forward, stepping out on our dreams, taking hold of our purpose, and simply living out fulfilling lives. So often, we are beat down due to our lack of proper self esteem. Even those who seem to come off as cocky or over-confident, often carry the lowest levels of self-esteem.
Our self-esteem is simply a feeling of confidence that we have in ourselves and our abilities. Due to our programming in our family of origin and experiences in life our view of our self and abilities can become off center. Usually, what we feel and believe about ourselves, we project that on others and assume other people feel the same about us.
Rebuilding our low self-esteem is a long process that will take a process of coaching and or counseling. I highly recommend that for everyone. If coaching for you as an individual or business leader is something you want to consider for any of the areas we have been covering in this series, please let me know. I can help.
*Self-Esteem is the single most significant key to a person’s behavior. A low self-esteem will quickly put a ceiling on a person’s potential. A person will never be able to outperform their self-image. The value we place on ourselves is usually the value others will also place on us.
For now, let’s look at some basic steps to build your self esteem:
- Guard your self-talk – By the age of seventeen you have heard, “No, you can’t” an average of 150,000 times. You have heard “Yes, you can” about 5,000 times. That’s powerful. You must learn to become you own ENCOURAGER.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. The only person you should compare yourself to is you because no one else has been put on this Earth to accomplish the specific purpose you have been created for but you so who can compare with that? Your story is your story for your purpose and your plan and no one else is supposed to or can do what you are supposed to do. Make sense? Just saying.
- Move beyond your own self-limiting beliefs. Charles Schwab said, “When a man has put a limit on what he will do, he has put a limit on what he can do.” Most people don’t believe they can accomplish great things so they don’t and remain comfortable and safe watching others take risks for them or instead of them. You are worth every single thing you have been created to be whether you FEEL it or not!
- Add value to others. By adding value to others you will see the value you truly bring while lifting the esteem of others.
- Celebrate the small victories. Just like a diet or exercise, celebrate each step of what you do correctly and the small victories. It is easy to tear yourself down for not having the 99% percent done. That will take you down every time. Remember, healing, the race, life, success is not a destination but a journey.
You can do this!
Dream Madly, Pursue Wildly, Trust Completely
Information used by permission from John Maxwell’s book, “The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth”
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