(I was permitted to share this story)
Recently, a friend told me about a painful situation regarding her boyfriend’s bad movement and continual lying. After months of negative treatment and lying, he cheated on her with another girl. My friend was devastated yet remained in the relationship believing it was her fault that he was not faithful. A year passed of unfaithful and negative treatment until my friend was left pushed to the side for another.
Fortunately, my friend is now walking with others who truly care about her and is seeking counseling to help with healing for her hurts.
Man, I don’t know about you, but I have been in relationships where I look back and go, “Really?” The key is not to kick ourselves or even bash those who have hurt us. Keep in mind, “Hurt people, hurt people.” A person connects and remains in relationship to the degree of emotional health that they are. For example, if I have a level 3 of emotional health and I meet a person who has an emotional health level of 6, we might hang for a second, but that level 6 will start to realize that I am NOT as healthy as they are and move away from me. However, if they are as unhealthy as I am, they will remain.
As I mentioned, the key is not to kick or bash, but to get healthy. We get what we allow. If I am unhealthy, I will allow bad movement from others, not set boundaries or say, “No”, feel I deserve what I’m being offered, and/or believe I need to fix or enable the person I am with. Like a person with a broken leg trying to help a person across a street. Unless I heal first, I cannot help anyone else.
Be Encouraged. Healing is a process, not a destination.
Charlotte
Dream Madly, Pursue Wildly, Trust Completely
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