I have already accepted that this post will be welcomed by some and probably offensive to others. While my intent is never to hurt or offend, I find it difficult to remain silent.
Unfortunately, our society seems tolerant of women grinding and wearing clothing that leaves little to the imagination in the media and on award shows yet rails against men for treating them as sexual objects. We now run for elections based on which president we like or hate instead of any foundational platform. We, unfortunately, walk in our unhealed wounds of fatherlessness with males searching for their masculine identity and females believing their bodies and sex are their sources of power. The result is the opposite. We deny our abuse and childhood trauma only to exploit our addictions through inappropriate commercials. Do we need to sexualize a piece of chewing gum?
All that to say, our society doesn’t take offense at most things. So perhaps, I will be offered some grace with this post regarding our men.
My dear, wonderful, God-designed men. Where are you? I wish I had the power to force you to read and imprint on your heart John Eldredge’s book, “Wild at Heart.” I believe you would truly understand how you were created and why things are falling around you. It also helps to understand why women are crying out for you despite the strong face we are putting on. Check out his website and book here: Wild at Heart
I realize we are living in a society that teaches women that they are supposed to be, “fierce and empowered” and any compliment is taken as an offense against the “MeToo” movement. Many men are tired, scared, and confused and either believe their role is to rule with dominance or sit back with passivity. I cannot imagine the stress you feel.
However, as a woman, I want to encourage you and hopefully give voice from a biblically-based woman’s desire for you. Your silence, despite what women and society do, is hurting us.
As fathers, when you are silent (i.e. not in the home or living at home and emotionally unavailable) the sons don’t learn how to be men. It doesn’t matter how wonderful a woman is. A woman CAN NOT give a boy his masculinity. Our society has made that evident.
When you are silent, the daughters don’t learn how to be women. We get our feminity from you, not our mothers. We learn how to move in a man’s life properly, not as a hoochy mama or object, but as a healthy woman from you.
When you are silent, women/wives believe that yet again we have to depend on ourselves, be strong, be empowered, etc. because you are not going to fight for and cherish us.
As quiet as it is kept, God created fathers to represent Him as a Father. Yes, you are imperfect, human, and will make many mistakes and fail. So what. When did you start believing the lie that you are not supposed to make mistakes or fail? You are not superhuman.
We need you to stand up and take manhood back. I don’t want a man to share fashion and beauty tips with who I can lead. I desire a man with hair on his chest, who is willing to lead as he is following Christ (mistakes and all) who is wild at heart and not afraid of me. Jesus was no quiet pushover who stood by and watched. As a man, if you are a follower of Christ, that is your calling.
Check out Tony Evans Biblical Manhood: The Call to Biblical Manhood | Sermon by Tony Evans – Bing video
You can do this!
Take care,
Charlotte
Dream Madly, Pursue Wildly, Trust Completely tm
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